Not sure if its god's plan or destiny, both Ann & Ly left their job which they held on for so many years almost the same time. And this year, they need to start a new chapter in their career. It is difficult stepping out of comfort zone, and a challenge to prove they can do it, and they are worth more than they thot they are.
So, NO more excuses. Face your fears now. Gotta kill them before the get hold of you!
"I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain."
Good Luck!
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Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Art of Being Assertive
"Ask and you shall be given"
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There is no specific number of life skills which are important for you to learn, and the life skills which are important to you may not be as important to someone else. This is one of the reasons why many colleges fail to teach students these skills, because the skills are vague and may vary in importance from one person to another.
However, many of these life skills are universally important, and if you do not develop them, you may find it difficult to achieve success in your life.
The Art of Being Assertive
There are two types of people that make up the majority of this world, and this is those that are too aggressive, and those who are two passive. Falling under either category will get you no where. If you're too passive, people will walk all over you, and will consider you to be weak.
If you are too aggressive, you will anger many people, make too many enemies, and you may eventually find yourself either in prison on in a cemetery. Therefore, it is obvious that you will need to be a balance of these two types. To gain this balance, you must become assertive.
To be assertive, you do not want to lose your cool easily, but at the same time, you have to avoid letting people walk over you. The best way to do this is to demand and give respect to anyone who deals with you; If they don't treat you and your property with respect, then you cut them out of your life; its as simple as that.
This goes for those who are subject to you as well as your superiors. If people feel that they can walk all over you, they will. It is hard to become successful in life if you do not know when to put your foot down. It is also important to be the type of person that is willing to walk away from any situation that isn't favorable, no matter what you're getting out of it. The ability to walk away and maintain your dignity is always a sign of power.
The Power of Team Work
The ability to work well with others is critically important. If you are not a "people person," then you will have to become one if you want to succeed in today's world. Very few people become successful in life without getting a whole lot of help from others along the way.
If you cannot get along with others, then you will ultimately find yourself alone, and a person who is alone is unlikely to gain either power or success. To succeed, you must always be willing to mingle with others. Many college classes today do emphasize group projects where students get to work together as a team.
Interpersonal Skills
Interpersonal skills is another essential life skill. This skills may also be known as communication skills; if you lack in interpersonal skill, it will be difficult for you to develop successful relationships, be it business or personal.
Being able to express your feelings to others in a meaningful manner is critically important. While many people know how to express their feelings, they do so in a manner that is unproductive. For example, if you are ever dealt with someone who has a short temper, or who is impatient.
Perhaps you fall under one of these categories. One thing that you have to keep in mind is that you will have conflict in your life. If you are doing business with people, you will inevitably have disagreements with them. While disagreements are natural, the way in which you handle it will mean the difference between career success and failure.
The essence of being able to express your feelings properly is to control your emotions. By controlling your emotions, and taking the time to think before you act, you will be capable of assessing situations in a manner which will allow you to deal with them in the wisest manner.
No matter who you are, or where you come from, there will be people in your life who will insult you and disagree with you. By remaining calm, and thinking things through, you will always come out on top, because you think with logic as opposed to emotion. Therefore, the most important life skill you can have is to control your emotions at all times.
_________________________
There is no specific number of life skills which are important for you to learn, and the life skills which are important to you may not be as important to someone else. This is one of the reasons why many colleges fail to teach students these skills, because the skills are vague and may vary in importance from one person to another.
However, many of these life skills are universally important, and if you do not develop them, you may find it difficult to achieve success in your life.
The Art of Being Assertive
There are two types of people that make up the majority of this world, and this is those that are too aggressive, and those who are two passive. Falling under either category will get you no where. If you're too passive, people will walk all over you, and will consider you to be weak.
If you are too aggressive, you will anger many people, make too many enemies, and you may eventually find yourself either in prison on in a cemetery. Therefore, it is obvious that you will need to be a balance of these two types. To gain this balance, you must become assertive.
To be assertive, you do not want to lose your cool easily, but at the same time, you have to avoid letting people walk over you. The best way to do this is to demand and give respect to anyone who deals with you; If they don't treat you and your property with respect, then you cut them out of your life; its as simple as that.
This goes for those who are subject to you as well as your superiors. If people feel that they can walk all over you, they will. It is hard to become successful in life if you do not know when to put your foot down. It is also important to be the type of person that is willing to walk away from any situation that isn't favorable, no matter what you're getting out of it. The ability to walk away and maintain your dignity is always a sign of power.
The Power of Team Work
The ability to work well with others is critically important. If you are not a "people person," then you will have to become one if you want to succeed in today's world. Very few people become successful in life without getting a whole lot of help from others along the way.
If you cannot get along with others, then you will ultimately find yourself alone, and a person who is alone is unlikely to gain either power or success. To succeed, you must always be willing to mingle with others. Many college classes today do emphasize group projects where students get to work together as a team.
Interpersonal Skills
Interpersonal skills is another essential life skill. This skills may also be known as communication skills; if you lack in interpersonal skill, it will be difficult for you to develop successful relationships, be it business or personal.
Being able to express your feelings to others in a meaningful manner is critically important. While many people know how to express their feelings, they do so in a manner that is unproductive. For example, if you are ever dealt with someone who has a short temper, or who is impatient.
Perhaps you fall under one of these categories. One thing that you have to keep in mind is that you will have conflict in your life. If you are doing business with people, you will inevitably have disagreements with them. While disagreements are natural, the way in which you handle it will mean the difference between career success and failure.
The essence of being able to express your feelings properly is to control your emotions. By controlling your emotions, and taking the time to think before you act, you will be capable of assessing situations in a manner which will allow you to deal with them in the wisest manner.
No matter who you are, or where you come from, there will be people in your life who will insult you and disagree with you. By remaining calm, and thinking things through, you will always come out on top, because you think with logic as opposed to emotion. Therefore, the most important life skill you can have is to control your emotions at all times.
How to Make Decision Effectively
I have problem of procrastinating - I tend to put things off until I thot I am ready. But usually it drags and I'm never ready ready.
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How to Make Decision Effectively
In theory, making decisions sounds really easy: you are given two or more options to choose from, and you simply decide which option you think is best for you. However, in reality, making decisions can become much more complicated than this. Your ability to make the right decisions can mean the difference between enormous success and mediocrity, and it is a critical life skill that needs to be learnt to perfection.
While making basic decisions, such as which flavor of ice cream to buy, are relatively simple, things become complicated when you begin making decisions that can affect others negatively, or where making the wrong decision can have adverse effects on your life.
Often, many people do not like making decisions and will actually avoid them. A leader is a person who is always able to make a decision and stick with it. The people who fail tend to be those who make a decision, but then are indecisive about following through on it.
Typically, people will put off decision making to the last minute, take unreasonably excess time to collect more than necessary info, or wait to see if the problem will go way on its own. Whereas a successful person is capable of making good decisions and can also make these decisions within a short period of time.
The first step in becoming an effective decision maker is to make decisions within a timely manner. This does not mean one should rush; when you are considering an action which could have adverse consequences on yourself or others, it is wise to seek the advice of others and think critically about any choice.
However, at the same time, you should not spend too much time doing this, as this is called procrastinating, and when you do this, you are prone to failure. Even if the final decision you make is wrong, a strong leader will always learn from them, and will not repeat the same mistake twice.
How to make a decisions?
When making a decision, especially a critical one, there are a number of things that you will want to take into consideration.
The first thing that you should consider is the downside of any choice you make. If the liability involved with any major decision is heavily adverse, the best option is to say "no." As a decision maker, you must protect both yourself and those under you. If an option has too many negative consequences, you simply cannot afford to go down that path.
The second thing that should always consider is the cost/benefit analysis. Picking any given option which is available to you will have costs and benefits.
The trade offs of any given decision will typically come in the form or resources and the benefits that you will gain by sacrificing them. A skillful leader is one who will always consider the cost/benefit analysis when making a critical decision.
The best decisions to make are those which have a fairly low cost combined with a benefit that is very high. Whenever you encounter an option where the benefits exceed the cost, it should be obvious to you that this is the best option to choose. In contrast, the worst decisions are those that have a high cost with a benefit that is too low.
The next thing you must consider is the parties that will be a part of the decision. Even if you are the leader of an organization, and you have the final say in any decision that is made, your choices will effect other people, and if it effects them in an adverse way, it could damage your position and reputation as a leader.
Therefore, you must always consider the advice of those who are most likely to be effected by any decision that you make. By asking others for input, you gain the ability to see beyond your own eyes, and can consider the perspectives of others, who may be able to see things that you are incapable of seeing.
Make Quick Decisions
While asking for input and taking the time to gather info is a good idea when it comes to making a decision, there are times in which decisions must be made quickly, where there is simply not enough time to get a consensus.
The best example of this is an emergency. If the situation is urgent, taking the time to gather a consensus could be disastrous, and may convey the impression that the leader is ineffective. This is not a situation that a leader wants to find themselves in.
_________________________
How to Make Decision Effectively
In theory, making decisions sounds really easy: you are given two or more options to choose from, and you simply decide which option you think is best for you. However, in reality, making decisions can become much more complicated than this. Your ability to make the right decisions can mean the difference between enormous success and mediocrity, and it is a critical life skill that needs to be learnt to perfection.
While making basic decisions, such as which flavor of ice cream to buy, are relatively simple, things become complicated when you begin making decisions that can affect others negatively, or where making the wrong decision can have adverse effects on your life.
Often, many people do not like making decisions and will actually avoid them. A leader is a person who is always able to make a decision and stick with it. The people who fail tend to be those who make a decision, but then are indecisive about following through on it.
Typically, people will put off decision making to the last minute, take unreasonably excess time to collect more than necessary info, or wait to see if the problem will go way on its own. Whereas a successful person is capable of making good decisions and can also make these decisions within a short period of time.
The first step in becoming an effective decision maker is to make decisions within a timely manner. This does not mean one should rush; when you are considering an action which could have adverse consequences on yourself or others, it is wise to seek the advice of others and think critically about any choice.
However, at the same time, you should not spend too much time doing this, as this is called procrastinating, and when you do this, you are prone to failure. Even if the final decision you make is wrong, a strong leader will always learn from them, and will not repeat the same mistake twice.
How to make a decisions?
When making a decision, especially a critical one, there are a number of things that you will want to take into consideration.
The first thing that you should consider is the downside of any choice you make. If the liability involved with any major decision is heavily adverse, the best option is to say "no." As a decision maker, you must protect both yourself and those under you. If an option has too many negative consequences, you simply cannot afford to go down that path.
The second thing that should always consider is the cost/benefit analysis. Picking any given option which is available to you will have costs and benefits.
The trade offs of any given decision will typically come in the form or resources and the benefits that you will gain by sacrificing them. A skillful leader is one who will always consider the cost/benefit analysis when making a critical decision.
The best decisions to make are those which have a fairly low cost combined with a benefit that is very high. Whenever you encounter an option where the benefits exceed the cost, it should be obvious to you that this is the best option to choose. In contrast, the worst decisions are those that have a high cost with a benefit that is too low.
The next thing you must consider is the parties that will be a part of the decision. Even if you are the leader of an organization, and you have the final say in any decision that is made, your choices will effect other people, and if it effects them in an adverse way, it could damage your position and reputation as a leader.
Therefore, you must always consider the advice of those who are most likely to be effected by any decision that you make. By asking others for input, you gain the ability to see beyond your own eyes, and can consider the perspectives of others, who may be able to see things that you are incapable of seeing.
Make Quick Decisions
While asking for input and taking the time to gather info is a good idea when it comes to making a decision, there are times in which decisions must be made quickly, where there is simply not enough time to get a consensus.
The best example of this is an emergency. If the situation is urgent, taking the time to gather a consensus could be disastrous, and may convey the impression that the leader is ineffective. This is not a situation that a leader wants to find themselves in.
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
What's stopping you?
When meet with problems, think about it - “what is stopping you?”…
Perhaps we should learn from the kids who'd keep ask "why" until they get down to the root.
Do an exercise with yourself - and be honest.
Saturday, August 20, 2011
藏拙
jus caught a glimsp towards the end of "小燕之夜" interviewing 張勝豐 & Roger , and saw this at the end of the show:
“…如果你想要表现得很好，要先学会认清自己，知道如何藏拙，才能够表现你的长处.”
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Stress Hardy
Traits of Stress-Hardy, Resilient People
From here.
1. They have a sense of meaning, direction, and purpose. They are value-centered rather than reactive and defensive. They understand that emotions are great sources of energy and motivation but are often poor guides for action. Instead these people use their values as guides.
2.They realize that the quality of our lives depends on how we focus our energy and our attention. They try to align their thoughts and actions with their values. They know how to motivate themselves to take action.
3. They don’t judge themselves or others harshly when things go wrong. They focus on what they want, not on what they don’t want.
4. They are able to tolerate ambiguity, uncertainty, and imperfection. They have a long-range perspective, so they give themselves and others room to grow. They can afford to be resilient, flexible, and creative because they are centered in their values.
5.They are reasonably optimistic and have a sense of humor. Even though they are dedicated to doing things well, they don’t take themselves too seriously.
6. They take responsibility for their mental programming, their emotions, and their actions. If they have ineffective ways of thinking and behaving, they evaluate them and make appropriate changes.
7. They look at adversity as a challenge rather than as a threat. They realize that no matter how the present situation turns out, they will learn and grow from it.
8. They respect themselves and other people. They have a spirit of cooperation, looking for win-win solutions rather than trying to win over other people or ignoring their own wants and needs because of fear.
9. They are grateful for the good things in their lives.
10. They know how to mourn the inevitable losses in life. They know how to let go of things they have no control over.
From here.
1. They have a sense of meaning, direction, and purpose. They are value-centered rather than reactive and defensive. They understand that emotions are great sources of energy and motivation but are often poor guides for action. Instead these people use their values as guides.
2.They realize that the quality of our lives depends on how we focus our energy and our attention. They try to align their thoughts and actions with their values. They know how to motivate themselves to take action.
3. They don’t judge themselves or others harshly when things go wrong. They focus on what they want, not on what they don’t want.
4. They are able to tolerate ambiguity, uncertainty, and imperfection. They have a long-range perspective, so they give themselves and others room to grow. They can afford to be resilient, flexible, and creative because they are centered in their values.
5.They are reasonably optimistic and have a sense of humor. Even though they are dedicated to doing things well, they don’t take themselves too seriously.
6. They take responsibility for their mental programming, their emotions, and their actions. If they have ineffective ways of thinking and behaving, they evaluate them and make appropriate changes.
7. They look at adversity as a challenge rather than as a threat. They realize that no matter how the present situation turns out, they will learn and grow from it.
8. They respect themselves and other people. They have a spirit of cooperation, looking for win-win solutions rather than trying to win over other people or ignoring their own wants and needs because of fear.
9. They are grateful for the good things in their lives.
10. They know how to mourn the inevitable losses in life. They know how to let go of things they have no control over.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
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